Everyone is toxic at some point… Right? When it comes to the word toxic, you might often think about barrels of pollution spilling over into a river in a small quiet town. The teenage mutant ninja turtles are fighting crime somewhere in this town, and Superman is a freakish result of this chemical spill. However, I mean something else when I say toxic with the cancel culture of today and the voices of so many heard regarding mental health and racial equality on the precipitous of drastic change. It is necessary but imperative to remove ALL things, people, and media that are encouraging and provoking a much more sinister agenda that goes against your morals and values. You are entitled to have your opinions; however, be cautious about what you allow in and stand for.

For instance, everyone has had that group of folks in their lives they regret. The ones mistreated and used them without their consent or with it. Those who try to play you out or reflect their shitty light on you by blowing up all your past mistakes and wrong decisions. Yes, those folks. What’s worse is that most of them are your family members. Yes. Our families are the first toxic relationships we support, fester, and grow with over time. As a result, these relationships will also become damaged, tainted, and destructive, and the cycle never ends. Of course, I’m only talking about the toxic ones in this blog post. Let’s face it, not everyone and everything is.

There are many ways a person can be toxic to you. Whether it’s never allowing you to grow, never allowing your past mistakes to stay in the past, or just never taking the blame for how they have traumatized you. Seeking closure is something every human pursues; whether we want to admit it or not, it’s the course that helps us cope and love the trauma. Unfortunately, we usually never get the closure we’re looking for. That’s perfectly okay because life doesn’t work that way. Learning how to forgive is not anything anyone wants to do. At all! Why should we? Why should we be the bigger person and allow anyone to walk around enjoying their lives off the misery they’ve caused others by their immoral actions?

As children, we have no choice but to be exposed to this toxicity. However, as an adult, why do we continue to accept it? Why do we stay connected to mean and hurtful people? In a series of essays, I’ll discuss how we engage in and take toxic relationships. What we can do to get away from them, and how to start the healing process to move on. However, you must understand how your mental health is more important than any relationship you’ll ever have. It’s okay to tell any and everybody to fly a kite. Respectfully. You will feel like that dead weight has fallen off, and your soul will open.

Stay tuned for the complete blog series as I give some essential views you can take away from this topic, and you can start your conversations about what to do and how to do it. Not every approach is for everyone, and not everyone is ready or willing to begin the process of self-healing and self-loving. Remember, this is YOUR journey… Not the entire world and not everyone around you. Just because you are starting your trip doesn’t mean everyone will support you and be happy about it. That’s OK. You truly matter to anyone else but yourself, which is crucial.